Imagine how you would feel...if your marriage
  got better every day!

Do you ever wonder if it's possible to repair your marriage?  Would you like to build a more deeply loving relationship with your partner?  You can learn how to get your needs met, improve your marriage, enjoy better communication, experience your home as a sanctuary, and work together in parenting your children.  As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I help individuals, couples and families achieve a more satisfying life.   Couples sometimes settle for being miserable.  I recommend that you don't just settle - come in to counseling and learn the secrets to more happiness and fulfillment.

About Couples Counseling

When a relationship has become strained or distant and you are not feeling close to your partner, you may feel hopeless that things will ever change.  I believe both you and your spouse want to feel understood and that your needs will be met and respected.  I think both of you want a happy and loving environment that you come home to at the end of the day.  When there is too much alienation or conflict, it may be time to see a therapist for couples counseling.  Counseling will help improve empathy and understanding.  It will help both of you talk to each other, and will help you listen to what is being said.  Counseling can help you and your partner move beyond a pattern of conflict and return to love.

Issues that come up in couples therapy may include anger management, sexual problems, money issues, past hurts that never got resolved, affairs,  anxiety and depression issues, alcohol and substance issues, and relationship with family and in-laws.

What I have been finding is that husbands and wives are not listening to each other.   They are not really communicating effectively.  There is hope  --  men and women can listen to each other with understanding and caring.

It takes the average couple six years to come in to couples counseling -- after the time they first think they should. This is emotional pain that you don't have to go through... if you seek out help sooner.

By the way...there does seem to be a point of no return...where it is too late to repair a marriage.  Don't wait until you get to this point.  Take action now.  There is a saying: "Fortune favors the bold".  Be bold and get the support you need to repair your relationship. 

Are you longing for more love or attraction?

Or are you longing for more sensuality and romance?  I work with you to help you understand the loss of love and attraction between you and your partner and then what exactly you can do to fix things.   Fixing things includes better communication, learning how to do things differently, and making changes that restore love, affection, attraction, harmony and good will towards each other.  You will actually make changes right there in the therapy office, and then you will have plenty of opportunities to practice at home between sessions.  And you will then have a better chance for success and happiness in your marriage.

About Psychotherapy

No matter how well things are going in your life, you may sometimes wonder what stops you from achieving more.  Or, your life may be a series of painful stresses and tensions from which there is limited or no relief.  Psychotherapy can support you moving towards a more fulfilling life. Psychotherapy is a process that can help you express yourself more successfully in the world and enjoy life more fully.  Often the stresses of the world cause a part of our psyche to freeze up.  This freezing up  can be experienced as anxiety, depression, confusion or lack of clarity.  Other times it is experienced as procrastinating - avoiding moving forward towards hopes, dreams and the tasks of daily life.   Therapy helps you move forward -- restoring your wholeness and increasing your enjoyment of life.

I have worked with individuals, couples and families for over 14 years.  Working in a variety of mental health related agencies, I have been on staff at residential programs for adults, young adults, adolescents, and children.  I was previously the director of Bridges of Sonoma, a residential treatment program for severely disturbed adolescents.

With a blend of  wisdom, understanding, intuition and humor -- we can work together to help you achieve your dreams and goals.

The Benefits of Therapy

Doing therapy may result in a decrease of anxiety, lifting of depression, improved sense of well-being, improved relationships, improved communication with others, more awareness of self and a sense of feeling more grounded and stable. In psychotherapy you will find a safe place to talk about the things that are the most important to you.

Would you like to feel calmer -- while experiencing more satisfaction in your life, and have closer connections with your loved ones, friends and co-workers?  Psychotherapy can be your gateway to a life with more happiness and balance.  I am experienced at helping you understand and utilize your strengths as a foundation to help create the life you desire. This isn’t a magical cure - walking this path may take some time, energy and focus.  Yet the rewards can be great.  For some, the goals are more about resolving old hurts and trauma - for others, improving relationship skills, and communication skills.  In all cases, my aim is to increase your ability to create the life you want.

Are You Experiencing Any of These?

People often come to therapy to move forward in their lives, even if they have no significant symptoms. For many others, therapy is sought because they are experiencing:

  • Depression

  • Stress or anxiety

  • Unresolved conflicts with a spouse, children, bosses, and co-workers.

  • Grief and loss that has gone on too long.

  • Difficulty balancing all the responsibilities of their life.

  • Difficulty adjusting to changes in health, job situation or in the family.

  • Problems related to trauma in the distant or recent past.

  • Issues related to drinking or use of other substances.

  • Parenting difficulties with children.

Throughout Your Life

Psychotherapy can assist people of all ages.  Here are some examples of situations where it can help:

  •     Adolescents stressed by the changes of growing up.

  •    Young adults trying to launch themselves into the world, but getting stuck on their attempts  to move forward.

  •    Adults in transition who are trying to get their lives back on track or recover from stressful events.

  •    Couples experiencing conflict or distance in their relationship.

  •    Loss of job, loved ones, health.

  •    Difficult relationships at work with boss or co-workers.

  •    Dealing with aging parents who are requiring more of your time and support than they previously needed.

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To contact me:

Call me if you would like to talk about therapy, or would like to schedule an appointment.   You can reach me at either:        415-339-7890 in Marin County or 707-583-2305 in Sonoma County.  You can also reach me by email.

You can schedule an appointment right now.  If you don't find any times that work online, call me...I may have some other times available.